I love first dates! The nervous excitement of the potential connection, the butterflies, the possibility of it being the last first date you may ever have.  The unknown is thrilling!  More often than not, they are utter crap and even the idea of a second date is doomed. But sometimes, few and far between, there are great ones with sparks of potential. Now, obviously I’m still single so, regardless of a good first date, nothing seems to have panned out lately… or has it… 😏

A while back, I actually had a fantastic first date.  Shocking, I know but, like I said, it does happen from time to time. He took me to the driving range, which I thought to be fairly original, as I had never been before, let alone on a date.  He brought me my own set of clubs to borrow and showed me how to sling them properly as we walked to the platform.  We split a basket of balls and whacked away.  I was terrible, shanking balls left and right! He had been playing since he was 5 and was very helpful.  At one point he stood behind me to help me with my grip. The closeness, for a first date, was daring but the timing was good and I wasn’t opposed. I’m pretty sure he was just trying to look down my shirt and smell my hair but the conversation was great, the flirting was nice, and this connection had some potential.

Inevitably, a good first date leads to a second date, which was the case with this guy. We would be going to dinner out downtown, near my place. As we were planning the details of the date, he made a request that had me scratching my head. He asked if he could bring his PlayStation over to my place after we have dinner. I let him know I had a PlayStation 3, if we wanted to watch a movie or whatever. He explained his request a little bit further. He wanted to play some games with me but they are only on his machine. Now, I’m a bit of a nerd, I’m not opposed to a video game here and there but this was another first for my dating repertoire. I reluctantly agreed and thought to myself, let’s just see how this plays out. If anything I will have a story for the blog… Oh, how true that thought was.

The night of the date arrived and duder showed up on my doorstep with his PS3 in hand. We went off to dinner, which was perfectly nice, and returned back to my place afterwards. He got to work immediately, getting behind the TV on his hands and knees, unplugging things, and plugging in cables. He couldn’t get something to work with his PS but he was so insistent on playing video games he then went to work on my dusty PS3. Honestly, I never use it. It hadn’t been updated in years. He noticed and commented on the lack of updates as he began to get my dinosaur of a gaming system up and running again. Finally, after about an hour, it was ready to go. He was like a kid on Christmas! We got to playing and, as I suspected, he was better than me at everything we attempted. I grew bored with losing always so he began to play alone while I sat and watched. I think that was way worse than playing and losing. As he played we did talk here and there. I asked the normal, get to know you better, questions. He began to spill the tea on details he had glossed over. Turns out, his “roommates” were actually his parents and his “position with a large Fortune 500 company” was working in the stock room at a large retail store. My spidey senses were tingling. That’s when he dropped the following bomb: His parents didn’t like him to play video games at home. His dad, a doctor, had confiscated his PS4 and locked it in his medical practice office so he is forced into using his “old PS3”. He carries it everywhere he goes so that his parents can’t take that one away too… 💥💥💥💥 I am not often at a loss for words but this did it for me. This 30 something year old was a man-child! His daddy took away his gaming apparatus because he lives with them and is apparently addicted to video games 😱

I do not expect perfect whatsoever but, sometimes, I wonder why people try to date when they obviously have way bigger things going on in their life that they should be focusing on. I wanted to shake him. Get your shit together man! You play video games as an adult so much that your dad had to intervene. Someone needs regulated no screen time badly!! Calling this a huge turn off is an understatement. I am a grown up. I have a grown up job and grown up bills. I haven’t live with my parents in almost two decades. I do like to have fun too but I also know when it’s time to play and when it’s time to put games away. I absolutely do not want a child for a boyfriend. I could only imagine if he was asking to bring his PS over on date number two, what date 10 would look like. I don’t mean to be judgmental, I only ask from my potential partners what I myself bring to the table. Needless to say, I had to end things with the guy who will forever have the moniker, Gameboy. I do hope he has hung up his controllers and grown up a bit.

Now, I know I teased you a bit at the beginning, hinting that my dating life may be looking up lately. While it was most definitely not with Gameboy, I have met someone who I like. It’s early still but he makes me laugh and I’m excited to see him again. That’s all I’ll say about it. I do truly hope that I run out of material eventually, that I’ll have to purely imagine horribly bad dates to keep you all entertained. That being said, thanks for always coming back, even when I’m inconsistent about posting ❤️